Remember. Remember your childhood, your family, your friends. Remember your first true loss. Remember to call home. Remember how you got that scar. Remember summer and sleepovers in the back yard. Remember important dates, and if you can’t then write them down. Remember to send flowers. Remember your grandmother’s window box and all the love she grew there each summer. Remember your first dog. Remember your manners; please, wipe your feet, thank you, yes ma’am. Remember the milestones that have imprinted themselves on your heart; remember who was with you, who held your hand who shared your laughter. Remember her name, her scent, the color of her eyes, the taste of her lips. Remember to stay safe; wear your seatbelt, look both ways, hold hands. Remember everything you can. Remember the path you are on; try to stay true. Remember your senses; breathe, see, listen, feel, flavor. Remember who you are and where you come from, because there will be those who will try to make you forget. Remember, you did not get where you are today by forgetting where you were yesterday. Remember.
How often do we forget? Why do we forget?
I used to think that forgetting was simply a sign of a lazy brain. At other times, I believed that forgetting was simply the mind’s way of protecting our hearts. Today, I’m not really clear as to why we forget, but I am beginning to believe that our thoughts run in cycles that are somehow dictated by our current priorities. We don’t place the same level of importance on things that are not currently waving in our present picture. The daily ins and outs of life; work, family, bills, car trouble, grocery shopping; seem to start crowding out the important things we should remember.
People often say, “Don’t look back,” but I think we have to look back in order to move forward. Sometimes the memories we allow to push forward can be painful or angry, but we still need to remember them. Forgetting does not change the past. Forgetting does not release us from the obligations we have to our memories; they are always there. We are all a walking conglomeration of events, all of which have had an impact on who we are today; forgetting is like giving your mind permission to cut out and discard parts of who you are.
It isn’t always easy to review your history, but it’s necessary. Don’t forget. Remember. Remember everything you can.